Understanding Intercrural Sex
When people hear the word “sex,” they often think of anal or vaginal penetration. However, there is a type of sexual activity that doesn’t involve penetration, known as intercrural sex. Also referred to as thigh sex, intercrural sex involves placing the penis between a partner’s thighs and thrusting for pleasure or orgasm, as explained by Lee Phillips, Ed. D., a psychotherapist and certified sex and couple’s therapist.
Historical Context
Intercrural sex has historical significance, dating back to Ancient Greece. The term was first introduced by K. J. Dover in his 1978 book, “Greek Homosexuality.” Dover explored homosexual relationships in ancient times, discussing how older men practiced intercrural sex with younger boys, known as pederasty. During that era, anal penetration was linked to social status and dominance, with the penetrated party seen as submissive. Intercrural sex offered an alternative that circumvented these societal views.
Modern Perspectives
While today’s views on anal sex have evolved, some still prefer intercrural sex for various reasons. Queer sex educator Gabrielle Kassel highlights the unique friction that thighs provide, which can be pleasurable for those accustomed to other forms of contact. Intercrural sex can be a preferred option when anal sex is uncomfortable, such as during a gastrointestinal flare-up, or when conditions like endometriosis or fibroids make vaginal penetration unsuitable.
Health Considerations
Intercrural sex poses a lower risk of sexually transmitted infections compared to oral, anal, or vaginal sex. It has been used as a method to reduce HIV transmission risk, as there is no penetration involved. Some gay men, known as “sides,” prefer this type of sexual activity over anal penetration, enjoying it as a valid form of sex without the need for traditional roles.
Perceptions of Pleasure
The definition of sex varies, with some limiting it to penetrative acts. However, Kassel points out that sex encompasses any meaningful act of pleasure, whether solo, partnered, or with multiple partners.
Tips for Practice
For those interested in intercrural sex, starting with foreplay by rubbing thighs against the partner’s genitals can enhance pleasure. Using lube, such as silicone or oil-based, can provide a slippery sensation and comfort during thrusting. Various positions like missionary, spooning, doggy style, and cowgirl can be explored. Once a position is chosen, the penis is placed between the partner’s thighs, which are used to create friction by gripping the penis securely before thrusting.